Q: Hi dr. Sandy. it's coming up on our 1 year anniversary since we met and my 40 year old boyfriend (i'm 42) says he's nervous and not ready to get engaged at the 1 year mark but asked for me to hang on for a few months and see if he "catches up to me". I'm sad because I thought things were going well and don't understand his hesitation. he says it's money. I don't know. it doesn't make me feel good.

A: Dear Mary,

Too many marriages go south because one partner feels pressured into marriage for a variety of reasons, opts to tie the "knot" and then resents it for the next 40+ years. No doubt your boyfriend has been burned in the past. A few more months doesn't sound unreasonable to me...if it drags on much beyond that, you need to accept the real message. I understand this "doesn't make you feel good..." but it will feel a lot worse if you ignore the signs and coax this guy to the altar!

Dr. Sandy Scantling
Author of Extraordinary Sex Now.
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